Cast of Characters in today's drama:
MIL - Mother in Law
FIL - Father in Law
AH - Aunty Hagrid
AB - Auntie Blobby
AGG - Awesome Great Grandma
Jimbo - Nephew
I'm about to go raging nut crazy at this family I've married into. My Poor Husband!! He's been working so damned hard to be the perfect employee, the perfect son and perfect Dad that he's killing himself! He's been working 15 hour days, and being the main source of support for MIL. As seems expected being the eldest and only son. We've been put the awful prospect of having to use our savings to pay MIL's mortgage. AGG has even offered to give MIL her inheritance early to pay off the mortgage instead.
FIL is still in hospital. MIL can't get access to money because she's not named on some accounts. Yet with the guilty obligation of paying her mortgage for her - I'm saying NO. NO we aren't going to give her one penny unless she A) Phones the mortgage company to find out if she has insurance that will allow her a payment break. B) Finds alternative ways to pay for her horses keep - I suggest AH pay this seeing as she has no obligations outside her mortgage, earns enough to help out and she actually put something other than an ear for her mom to moan into.(This earlier suggestion that MIL sell the horses was greeted with a grim "I'll have to have them destroyed as moving them to a new owner would be too cruel at their age," - fine, try and find a vet who'll put down two perfectly healthy horses, I dare you.) C) She look into ways to reduce her gas payments - I think she should plastic coat all her windows for a start - and I'm not paying for it and I'll deeply resent having Husband do it for her, but as she's short and we're tall, we'll have to do it. I don't care if it's ugly, but over £350/$600 a month is fucking ridiculous!! D) She gets the hospital consultant to sign POA forms so MIL can have access to business accounts and stop fannying around with her head in the sand. If I hear"Oh the consultant wasn't in today" one more time I'll scream. MAKE A FUCKING APPOINTMENT YOU DIZZY TWIT!
Now of course by taking a hard line, I will be known as the family outlaw bitch. Yes, I'm heartless. I won't let MIL martyr herself and let everyone else (feel a deep sense of guilt and obligation) try and get her shit together for her anymore. I fucking quit. Unless she gives a little, I'm giving nothing and I forbid Husband from doing so as well. I haven't told him yet, that'll be a cheery dinner conversation. But MIL is a fifty something woman of experience and wisdom and I refuse to take her responsibilities for her any more - she needs to get her thumb out her butt and stand on her own two feet. Because we're still going to OZ and if this happens again in the future, we're not coming back to fix it again. She needs to know what she has to do. On her own! Although I have made a deal with Jimbo that if he does a few chores around MIL's house I'll pay him an allowance. I showed him how to scrub the toilets, dust and clean the banister and railings. His eyes are full of £ signs and excitement, but we'll see if he manages to get them done on Sunday.
I'm fed up with AH and AB doing nothing because they "have lives" (and we don't?? Tcha!) and leaving Husband to do everything. They'll get a phone call saying "Husband isn't going to drive MIL on Tuesday as he has a Dr's appointment (which I made with my therapist for him because he needs someone who's not emotionally involved to offer advice) so you'll have to help your mom instead - argue amongst yourselves. end of. fuckyou.bye."
I'm feeling very bitter.
And I get all of this with the added bonus of discovering my anti-anxiety medication is causing me to lactate. It's a rare symptom, but happens. Also I've gained weight as it's a higher dose I'm on (which I need to cope with all of the above and began in January) which is also causing menstrual oddities and mimics pregnancy symptoms. I thought it was a phantom pregnancy but no, and No I'm not pregnant, took a test already. I hated to spend the money but better safe than sorry.
So there, sorry. It's why I've not been posting as much. Life's tough just now. And that's what's going on outside the house - don't even get me started on SassyFace. She's grounded, in big trouble in school and does she feel guilty for what she's done???? Nope. It's my fault apparently, because I'm an awful Mum and she hates me. I know all of what's going on is affecting her, even though she doesn't know what's going on, just that FIL is in hospital. It'll be ok though, it's the easier problem to fix, MIL, AH and AB are the real problems. Sassy is a piece of cake compared to that dastardly trio and the incompetent Fiances.
Oh it's all fun and games at la casa Lyvvie.